Writing Your Vowls - Sandy Bottom Civil Marriage Celebrant

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Let’s Talk Vows – Writing your vowls doesnt have to be hard, its just putting your brain and the content together for work it all out

So I get asked quite often how do I write my vowels?,

Well its individual choice really for every person. The Vowels Im talking about are the personal Vowels, these are different from the Legal Vowels which dont change that much.

According to wedidit

Here are a few key points on marriage vows you might want to bring up when you consult with your celebrant:

The Legal Aspect – Depending on the type of ceremony and vows you choose, there may be some legal guidelines and requirements to take into consideration. When in doubt, definitely ask your celebrant.
The Context – Discussing the vows in the context of the rest of the ceremony can impact the form and flow to aim for when writing.
Consistency & Compatibility – Especially if you’re keeping your vows under wraps until the big day, you need someone to help ensure that both parties’ vows will flow seamlessly—Will you each end up speaking for roughly the same amount of time? Are you both using similar amounts of humour, or has someone gone the romantic route?

Communication is the Key

Legal Vowels

These dont change that much, as part of the legal requirements of a marriage in Australia they are to be said in front of your witnesses. They are simple.

“I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, A.B. (or C.D.), take thee, C.D. (or A.B.), to be my lawful wedded wife (or husband, or spouse)”;

or words to that effect. In fact words to that effect dont change much, besides Husband, Wife, Spouse options. But who would really want to change the most powerful moment of a wedding anyway?

Personal Vowels

Personally I think the personal vowels change the feel, the mood and the way the ceremony is bought together. I have a lot of couples tell me they don’t want to say personal things to each other, and that’s fine, it is your wedding. But if your expecting tears, emotion and overflowing gallows of love, forget personal vowels.

Without them makes the ceremony tight and in some cases less personal , which is fine if thats what your looking for. Couples that dont like to display heaps of affection and declaration of Opiums amounts of love, talk to your celebrant and work out ways of classically making ways of marriage celebrations work for you.

Marriage Vowels Low Down

Create a magic moment by looking at three basic Character things that work in personal vowels.

Why am I here?
What makes your partner so special?
What I look forward to in the future?

Other factors

Keep it honest
Keep it short
Keep it clean

For instance Ive had a wedding where a couple decided to air their dirty laundry on their wedding day. Thinking it would be funny and entertaining and to be honest, the couple understood it to be ok with their wording to each other, but the rest of guests where a bit overwhelmed. I understand that its their wedding, but as I tell every couple, “lets put on a show”, but don’t “Get booed off stage”.

Understanding each other it should really just come naturally unless your not the “Writing Type”, which I get. Follow the simple questions and even if its not written it doesn’t matter. But in this case I like to help you type out the wording if it makes you feel at ease.

Example:

(Why am I here) – I met Andrew over ten years ago on the rocks at Bondi, Even though he didn’t notice me at first as I tripped and ended in a ditch, the cries of help sure got his attention.

It was that magical moment i new my life was changed forever.

(What makes your partner so special) – The glow of those gorgeous blue eyes and his ability to never stop loving made me consider how important he is in my life. The way he makes my cuppa in the morning, to the annoying push to get out of bed each day.

(Things to look forward to in the future) – Not only Andrew are you morning each day, but the longer we hold hands, I know that I never want to live without you. You are the most caring man, my inspiration but with us together my partner in life, and I never want that to change.

The example above is just a small way of explaining how easy it is to write vowels that are effective, quick but still showing love without too much of the soapiness. Of course its up to you how you want your vowels, and that’s why Im here to help you forward and make something special.